Thursday, August 24, 2006

Patience

Anybody can become angry, its easy; but to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose and in the right way, that is not within everybody's power, that is not easy.

The remarkable thing is that we do unto others as we do unto ourselves. We hate others when we hate ourselves. We are tolerant toward others when we tolerate ourselves. We forgive others when we forgive ourselves. But sometimes i am really patient and tolerant and forgiving and what not but why dont i reap any benefits? Not that i do it for the benefits, it just seems to come to me naturally.

AS a child i was very obstinate, always letting my anger flare up, not caring about whose mistake it was. But as i grew i realised that the anger in me was only causing me hurt. I would say nasty things or behave badly with people i care about when i am angry but when i cool off i regret my actions.Ever since, i have learnt to control my anger.I've learnt that speaking when i am angry only makes me remorseful later.I've learnt that silence is really one of the best solutions when i am angry.And it really doesnt hurt to say sorry even if its not my fault.... and why not if it solves any problem almost instantly.Whether its someone younger than me or someone much older it is always appropriate to apologise.... and with the help of deep breaths everything falls back into place almost as quickly as it occurred.

I cannot make others as i wish them to be, but i can make myself to be a better person that others as well as i will appreciate. The moral of today is: I cant change people to suit me but i can change myself to suit the situation. :) Anger will never get us anywhere and patience is a virtue