Thursday, August 31, 2006

Complains

Don't complain that you are not getting what you want, Just be glad you are not getting what you deserve!

Choice or Chance?

Is falling in Love, Chance or Choice? I think they are omnipresent. Without chance, how would we ever meet the person who is destined to be our other half? Once chance smiles at us and unites us with our mate, its our choice as to whether we want to hold on or give up on our love.

Human nature is to err and then find something/someone to be accountable for that mistake... But before we begin blaming circumstances, I guess we ought to ask ourselves, deep within how much we love this someone, is he/she so important that they precede ourselves.

Are we willing to sacrifice ourselves, to give up our liberty, surrender our luxuries and compromise our hitherto un-bridled(current unrestrained) lifestyles?

When you decide to love a person knowing his/her faults, thats not chance.Thats choice.

Even when you know there are many people out there who are more attractive, smarter, richer than your mate, yet you decide to love your mate just the same, that's choice. How oxymoronic that this choice came about through chance to start off with...

We meet many people in our lives and eventually, we will meet that special someone who will pull our heartstrings, sometimes even without our knowing. This is Chance. However, upon meeting that someone, there will come a time when we decide to be with that him/her or not. That is Choice.

What do you think? Do you think we get the option of choosing the person we love and be with?

Thursday, August 24, 2006

Patience

Anybody can become angry, its easy; but to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose and in the right way, that is not within everybody's power, that is not easy.

The remarkable thing is that we do unto others as we do unto ourselves. We hate others when we hate ourselves. We are tolerant toward others when we tolerate ourselves. We forgive others when we forgive ourselves. But sometimes i am really patient and tolerant and forgiving and what not but why dont i reap any benefits? Not that i do it for the benefits, it just seems to come to me naturally.

AS a child i was very obstinate, always letting my anger flare up, not caring about whose mistake it was. But as i grew i realised that the anger in me was only causing me hurt. I would say nasty things or behave badly with people i care about when i am angry but when i cool off i regret my actions.Ever since, i have learnt to control my anger.I've learnt that speaking when i am angry only makes me remorseful later.I've learnt that silence is really one of the best solutions when i am angry.And it really doesnt hurt to say sorry even if its not my fault.... and why not if it solves any problem almost instantly.Whether its someone younger than me or someone much older it is always appropriate to apologise.... and with the help of deep breaths everything falls back into place almost as quickly as it occurred.

I cannot make others as i wish them to be, but i can make myself to be a better person that others as well as i will appreciate. The moral of today is: I cant change people to suit me but i can change myself to suit the situation. :) Anger will never get us anywhere and patience is a virtue

Monday, August 21, 2006

Just do it....

People always say they want to change, then on New Years, you hear their resolutions and then when next New year comes, nothing has changed. Everyone is the same, they keep pushing it of to another day,then they reassure themselves by going" I'll start the day after tomorrow" and tomorrow never seems to come by.

Same goes with me. I will very enthusiastically go online get all the exercises that best suit me, print them out,pin them up on the wall.Telling myself of course:"that i'll start tomorrow" Tomorrow comes and then i realise that my hands are aching or i've already had lunch now what....

Of course i will tell myself no problem, i'll definitely do it tomorrow. then the same thing goes on and on.The body parts take turns to seek pity and i so easily tell myself "Never mind"
Then comes the end of the year and everyone around me is makin resolutions again and i realise I havent fulfilled my previous one, nor the one before nor the previous ones before.
So what do i do? In order not to feel guilty i make a new one....

I've learn the importance of not putting work off til tomorrow just in case tomorrow never comes... at least there is the assurance that i've got the job done

I realise that as technology advances, people are getting even lazier.In the past, we used to see packed gyms. Now exercise machines can be found at homes but no one is seen utilising them.
They even have numerous creams and stuff like "Osim's Uzap" which you can use in the comfort of your own home and its so convenient to use.I can't vouch for whether or not they work but they definitely are convenient.Yet those who have these gadgets never seem to get the time to use them. But day after day u can hear them complaining--> about their weight, how fat they are getting...blah blah blah.

I've learnt that complaining and postponing what you can do today til later isn't going to get you any where.So just do it right now what you put off til today

Sunday, August 20, 2006

Just Wrote this one...

Well this one is dedicated to sumone close to me...Just couldnt nap this afternoon so i decided on writing this for the one close to my heart.I just wanna tell u, its not the end of the world.Life is short and life throws at us many such ocassions where we're left in a daze.We wonder how we'll live to see tomorrow...but be positive everything will be fine...

The love we had was so strong
I wonder where i went wrong
Lyin in my bed i try to sleep
This time, you've hurt me too deep

My heart you have broken
My trust you have betryaed
Given me tears,
caused me pain...

The bright days have turned dark
I sit here wondering what to do with my broken heart
Countless tears i cry
I wipe them but they never seem to dry

How am i suposed to live without you
We've been together so long
How am i supposed to move on?
What i was living for is gone...

Tears stream down my face
I'm still in a daze
One new aquintaince you made
And so soon i got replaced

I trusted you with all i had
But you've hurt me so bad
Tell me did you ever love me?
Did you even care

Now that you have another
Ask your heart was i ever there?

Saturday, August 19, 2006

How the tranquility was broken...

Saturday...most of the times the 6th day of the week is our family day where we spend it indoors or outdoors together...so long it involves all of us. We decided on goin to the East Coast today and so before we headed there, we bought ourselves a meal from MaCdonalds. We got there, laid out our mat and while Chandini & mum were lying down on it and lazing, dad and i were all set in our yoga posture.Of cuz we couldnt meditiate... just sat that way to straighten our spine.

So after 2 hours of family time, we started heading home. Dad wanted to try the new expressway so we took a longer route instead of the Geylang one. as usual it was quite packed as the make shift durian vendors have their loyal customers there, and their loyal customers like always park all along the road making it more congested...then there are drivers who are there to pick up chicks from the red light district taking their own sweet time and cruising on the already congested roads... a scooter was whizzing past everyone and when it came to the car infront of us.... and BANG!!

it banged a bangla worker who was trying to cross the road with his cycle. I agree it was the bangla's fault to a certain extent,his bicycle fell off and so did he but i guess the shock of being banged had left him feeling numb cuz though it wasnt me, i could feel the pain throughout my body just by having seen it. Luckily for him it didnt get bloody. Then the rider and pillion of the scooter stared at him while he apologised and quickly went on his way. The scooter rider was so damn inconsiderate, instead of helping that poor fella he was staring at him as if he was so right. He was riding so fast on a congested road...wat was he thinking. then of cuz two other cars were affected...got scratches on their sides and they got down to check their cars respectively causing the other impatient drivers to honk...

then we took off from there not really knowing what happened in the end..I really wish the man whoses vehicle got scratched makes the couple pay for the damage.Inconsiderate bunch of youngsters. Didnt even feel the need to tend to the poor fella. Even if it was his fault as a human, i think we should be obliged to care for the well being of another of our kind...well thats just my two cents worth.

I uess i am pretty sensitive when it comes to such stuff. I cnat just brush off someone's injury thinkin it was his fault.So wat if it was? And who are we to decide whose fault it actually was? We're only thinking on our part, what to us seems right might not necessarily be right...right?
Hmm so as soon as i got back i wanted to get this down as its still so clear in my head. I needed to let it out so that i can sleep peacefully tonight.

Good night!

Friday, August 18, 2006

Rumor has it...

A piece of unverified information of uncertain origin usually spread by word of mouth or hearsay.Rumours do influence people a great deal. Even if it doesn't change the perception, it definitely gets one thinking... I just watched the movie "Rumour has it..." i must say its a pretty nice movie to watch...of cuz minus the sleeping around thing. The ending was really sweet.

Many a times we decide to listen to hearsay and believe others but never decide to clarify with the person directly related to it...causing many misunderstandings sometimes even life long misapprehensions. I wonder where the word trust comes in. It has become pretty wierd that not even the married people of our generation trust their spouse...no wonder the increasing rate of divorce. But then again the word 'Unfaithful' has become so increasingly popular. So the question is...how does one know that the one she or he has chosen is faithful/unfaithful?

It is a question to ponder about especially when you can only take responsibility of your own actions and are not able to control that of another.One can be loving in the first 20 years of marriage and still turn out unfaithful in the 21st.i believe there is a risk involved all the time...marriage/relationship is just one of the many. Just like when we take a bus we know the stop we're gonna get off at but its whether the bus goes all the way to your destination or gets stalled along the way. You as the passenger know your destination but the bus...thats not in our control. we can never be sure... but it is a risk worth taking. :)

I know i am sounding very philosipical. I just had time on my hands and was kinda inspired by the movie i watched.

if you havent watched it yet. Its a good one.

Thursday, August 03, 2006

Bittersweet memories